The importance of Platonic Love and the Fallacy of the “Friend Zone”

A good friend reminded me that while we’re often caught up looking for our soulmate, we get blinded to the many soul-mates who are already in our lives.

Our soul-mates are our best friends with whom we could spend days talking to about pretty much everything. Our soul-mates are there when we need a shoulder to cry on or just as important need someone to talk to or just listen.

I met one of mine recently. Her name is Heather (who happens to have an equally great, yet much longer running website of awesomeness) and it was more of a meeting of two souls who haven’t seen each other for a long time, rather than two strangers bumping into each other at a cafe.

Immediately we hit it off and had tons to talk about and share. We started to talk about books and she mentioned her interest in the book “A Course in Miracles.” Which, by the way is an excellent book and can be had for all of four or so dollars on or any other bookstore. We decided on the spot to start reading it together and met today, for the second time in our lives, to go over the first chapter.

To make a long story short we barely got six pages into it because we basically had twenty something years to catch up on with each other, like old friends seeing each other after years, except we had only met a week ago.

In the past, meeting people with whom I shared so much in common, (spiritual, Awesome, brilliant,and attractive 🙂 I would have been so driven by the need to meet “My soul mate” that I would have confused the situation, tried to date her and messed up a divinely appointed soul meeting.

However this didn’t happen. And it got me thinking. There are probably a lot of people suffering right now form the blinders that our society puts on male/female relationships.

While we are born into these blinders we all have the power to take them off! I’ve heard countless men complain about women who “only want to be their friends” and feel genuinely “stuck” in a friendship role with their female friends whom they are attracted to.

What I had to do was (through painful learning) appreciate the genuine joy, potential and possibilities within all of my relationships when I took a perspective of gratitude for the wonderful people in my life. Instead of thining of what I wanted from the other person, I looked for commonalities and what connections were organically forming.

It’s in these relationships that I find solace, communion and most of all, love without expectations.

Platonic Love is a love that transcends the physical. It’s something that is beautiful, enriching and mutually uplifting.

The wonderful thing is that if you have penned yourself into a cave of friend zone, and are miserable looking for your lover that is not there, just take off your blinders of “i don’t have” and you’ll probably see that all around you are wonderful relationships that can be life changing. And it’s a lot easier being someone’s friend than dating them too! So you can have tons of close enriching friendships with barely any stress! I surely do. And it is Awesome and it creates Winning.

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